Writing Is For The Weak

A true writer (and yes, there are true ones), is sensitive.  Overly-sensitive, in fact.  They’re the kind of people you tease and they go home and brood over it for days.  The type of person you criticize and you can’t understand why they take it so personally (“You asked for input!”).  A writer is a raw nerve, if he’s honest with himself.

Why else would he have that compulsion to write, besides that sensitivity, that rawness?  He has this bundle of emotions and he doesn’t know what to do with it, and so a piece of paper (or a blank Word document) suddenly seems like a safe refuge, a place to run, to throw those emotions down, to let out that sensitivity in a place where there aren’t people wondering why you’re “so touchy”. A place where you don’t have to pretend to be a tough one like all the rest.

Because, truth be told, that’s the world even the most liberal-minded person wants you to live.  They want you to be a rock.  To fight.  To be “brave”.  And their idea of being brave is to build a shell around yourself.  The exoskeleton of ants who go out, do their job, live their routine (from partying to sitting at home eating dinner with the family) and then do the same thing all over again every day.  Routine takes place of passion.  And the “passion” they do exhibit is when they get angry on blog comments or in political debates with their friends.  Or when they consume empty media.  Or when they judge you for being you.

That’s not to put down the people who do those things, but to remind you who they are, and how different they are from you, the person who wants to write.

And, more importantly, how flawed, how stupid, (okay now I’m putting them down), their conception of what bravery is, of what strength is.

To them, strength means erasing fear.  To them, if they were to write, it would be a political diatribe or a well-researched paper that has no flaws (ie humanity) or a screed against all the fools of the world.  If they were feeling randy, they would write a novel about Jack Fleming, international super-spy who kills people for fun and makes love to women because he’s an awesome reflection of who these people wish they were.

In other words to an egoist, bravery is something you go out and do out of duty.  Or calculation.  Or just to make yourself look good.

(On a side note, the hard religionists are no different: “Go and do!” they say, “Go and follow the laws and stop looking at the things that bother you! God and existence and reality shouldn’t bother you because you are religious now.  Stop your whining, send your kids to a school you don’t like, live a life you feel uncomfortable with, and convince yourself it’s all worth it.  Because you’re a man, and you’re tough!”)

These are the people you actually often see become the successful writers of the day.  We like to remember people like Tolstoy, but there were a bunch of egoists in his time too, and he decried them all.  So did Blake, who couldn’t stand the hard, unfeeling, “critical art” that surrounded him.

Like Tolstoy and Blake, Van Gough decried this stale art, saying, “The world only concerns me so far as I feel a certain debt and duty towards it and out of gratitude want to leave some souvenir in the shape of drawings or pictures—not made to please a certain tendency in art, but to express sincere human feeling.”

And most importantly, the worst egoists live not around us, but in our minds.  Of course, it is the egoists around us who give us the script we tell ourselves (it could have been parents or teachers or that idiot commenter on your blog post), but we are most often the ones actually saying the words to ourselves.

But for all egoists, whether within or without: the answer is simple.  Your writing, if you’re going to do it, needs to come from a place of total assuredness.  A place without vulnerability.  And, most importantly, you can’t make any mistakes.

So, you speak to them, let’s say, about something you wrote, that was horribly vulnerable, something that exposed your heart and your soul, and you say how scared you are about sharing it and they say:

“Well, maybe you shouldn’t.  Maybe you’re scared because you shouldn’t be writing that.”

Or they’ll say. “Don’t share something like that, it’ll hurt people, it’ll hurt you, it’ll hurt the world,” because maybe you shared something that wasn’t completely positive.  Something about a conflict or a pain in your life.

Or then you’ll publish it anyway, and the negative comments will come rolling in, and you’ll just want ot curl up in a ball and die.

And then you make the mistake of again sharing your pain with this egoist, this non-artist, this person who thinks you should be an exo-skeleton, and they say, “Well, what did you expect?  You put yourself out there.  You wrote something personal and vulnerable and something dangerous because it challenged the way peoople think, you idiot, and now you’re surprised when people get angry at you.  What did you expect? 

“What did you expect?”

Those are the words either you will tell yourself, or the words the egoists will tell you.

Because to them, they can’t compute a person who has made himself vulnerable through his writing.  They can’t imagine being open and honest and telling something that may upset others because it comes from deep within you and not the place that just wants to please others or sell novels or get shares.

Their words essentially come down to: “You want to write?  You need to be strong.  Writing is for the strong, not the vulnerable.  It is for the critic, not the emotional, unstable, heart-on-the-sleeve person.”

These are the voices that do not understand art.  These are the voices who have, unfortunately, also overtaken art (at least the kind we all “respect” and wish we could be part of). 

These are the voices of liars. And their lies will kill your writing if you listen to them, especially if the voices come from within.

Writing isn’t for the strong.  It’s not for the hard or the critical or the people who know how to write to sell a novel.

It’s for the weak.  It’s for the vulnerable.  It’s for the scared.

Because writing, true beautiful writing that actually affects both the writer and the reader is writing that comes from a place of absolute and utter vulnerability.  A place that is unique only to you, and thus an incredibly scary place to share.  True writing is doing your best to be honest about the things you are most in need of being honest about: and that is usually something we’ve been hiding deep down out of fear or regret or that egoist voice telling us to keep quiet.

(Side note: this does not mean that you need to literally write posts about you.  But they should come from the part of you that is soft and scared and vulnerable)

Writing is for the weak, but that is also why it is for the brave.  You have to be brave to let out those emotions, that vulnerability, and then let others read it, evaluate it, use their critical eyes on it and start smashing their exoskeletons against it.

Who is brave?  The crab who comes out of his shell to reveal who he really is, or the crab stuck in his shell, never leaving it for another so he can grow?

The brave ones are the weak scared ones.  The brave ones are the honest ones.   The brave ones are the ones that are saying something they feel needs to be said and even if they know some people will attack them for it.

True bravery, as they say, is being scared, but doing it anyway.

Those egoists, they aren’t scared and they just do, flitting around like parrots, squawking at anything that catches their attention.  They’re yelling at you because you represent their true fear: a world in which we are truly open and honest.  A world in which they would have to be vulnerable.  A world in which the artifice they’ve created, the illusion they’ve projected, is popped like a balloon.

You are a threat to them.  You are a threat to all the people who live in a shell, convinced they can hide in a world of dishonesty and lack of vulnerability.

In other words, you are a warrior.  You are at battle.  At battle with hardness.  With fakeness.  With cold imbalanced intellect.  With a world who rewards the loud, angry ones instead of the quiet, soft ones.

You are the bravest, and (especially if you write online), you may come out of this all with a few battle scars.

But you’ll have lived your mission.  You will have lived the life that you know you are meant to live.  And you will have changed the world, even if you only reached one other person.

You are a hero.





69 responses to “Writing Is For The Weak”

  1. Naomi Elbinger Avatar
    Naomi Elbinger

    amazing post. i’m assuming you can write it cos for a while you used to see things the opposite way and now you have been set free?

    1. Yisroel Avatar

      Excellent post

  2. Kristin Walker Avatar

    Thank you for posting this piece, for writing it. I wrote a deeply personal blog a few years ago and allowed some serious bullies to taunt me until I took it down. Going to revive it because there were so many people that thanked me for helping them after reading some of what I wrote.

    1. Elad Nehorai Avatar

      The bullies are the worst. Even worse than the critics. Damn the bullies.

  3. Yonatan Gordon Avatar
    Yonatan Gordon

    Wants to publically thank you again for this article. It inspired me to write, and hopefully the readers of those articles, and so forth (readers of the readers of the readers…). I found the “curl up into a ball” imagery especially helpful as the act of releasing our inner world to the outside world can disband our armored shell that we place between our sensitive inner being and the world. Best to have both — personal expression that reaches outward and a tough outer sabra skin — but not always is this the case. 🙂

    1. Elad Nehorai Avatar

      Wow, Yonatan, I’m so humbled that my writing moved you so much and inspired you to write your own wonderful posts. Can you remind me of the links so I can share them?

      1. Yonatan Gordon Avatar
        Yonatan Gordon

        Sent an email. Hope I sent to the right address.

  4. avenue17 Avatar

    It seems magnificent idea to me is

  5. windaddyindia Avatar

    I am sorry, that I interrupt you.

  6. golden goose outlet Avatar

    I simply needed to appreciate you again. I’m not certain what I might have made to happen in the absence of the entire aspects documented by you on such a concern. It became an absolute challenging circumstance in my circumstances, but finding out this professional manner you processed that took me to cry for delight. I’m happy for your guidance and thus pray you recognize what a powerful job you’re undertaking instructing many others through your web blog. I am sure you have never come across all of us.

  7. off white t shirt Avatar

    I really wanted to write a simple remark in order to express gratitude to you for all of the fantastic advice you are giving here. My time-consuming internet search has finally been compensated with sensible tips to talk about with my great friends. I ‘d state that that we visitors are really blessed to dwell in a fine community with very many lovely professionals with great strategies. I feel quite grateful to have used your entire website and look forward to tons of more entertaining moments reading here. Thank you once more for everything.

  8. off white clothing Avatar

    I truly wanted to send a brief remark in order to say thanks to you for some of the pleasant suggestions you are sharing here. My time intensive internet investigation has at the end been rewarded with extremely good insight to write about with my classmates and friends. I would suppose that most of us visitors actually are undoubtedly fortunate to exist in a very good place with so many brilliant professionals with valuable suggestions. I feel extremely grateful to have used your web site and look forward to really more thrilling times reading here. Thanks a lot once more for all the details.

  9. jordan shoes Avatar

    Thanks a lot for giving everyone an extraordinarily nice possiblity to discover important secrets from this site. It’s always very nice plus stuffed with fun for me and my office mates to search your blog really thrice in a week to read the newest things you have. And definitely, I am also always amazed with your unique advice you give. Certain 1 areas on this page are in fact the most impressive we’ve had.

  10. golden goose sabot Avatar

    There are some fascinating cut-off dates in this article however I don抰 know if I see all of them middle to heart. There may be some validity however I’ll take hold opinion till I look into it further. Good article , thanks and we wish more! Added to FeedBurner as well

  11. jordan outlet Avatar

    I simply wanted to thank you very much again. I am not sure the things that I would’ve accomplished without these ways revealed by you regarding that problem. This has been the challenging crisis in my position, nevertheless noticing this skilled strategy you solved the issue made me to leap over joy. Now i’m happier for the advice and in addition sincerely hope you recognize what an amazing job you were carrying out teaching others through your blog post. Most likely you’ve never come across all of us.

  12. curry shoes Avatar

    I wanted to write you that tiny observation to finally thank you very much the moment again on the marvelous basics you have discussed above. It has been simply tremendously generous of you to make unreservedly just what a number of people would’ve distributed for an ebook to get some bucks on their own, chiefly given that you might well have done it if you ever desired. Those good ideas additionally served as the great way to understand that other people have the identical passion really like my personal own to understand a little more in regard to this issue. I’m certain there are thousands of more enjoyable times in the future for individuals that find out your website.

  13. kyrie 8 Avatar

    I simply needed to appreciate you all over again. I do not know what I would have done in the absence of the entire suggestions discussed by you about such a question. This was an absolute horrifying circumstance for me, however , coming across this well-written style you solved the issue took me to jump over happiness. Now i’m thankful for the assistance and then hope that you comprehend what an amazing job you are always putting in educating many others with the aid of your blog. I am sure you’ve never come across all of us.

  14. yeezy boost 380 Avatar

    I not to mention my friends were looking through the great key points located on your website and then at once I got an awful feeling I never thanked the web blog owner for those tips. My guys happened to be as a consequence stimulated to study them and have in effect in fact been taking pleasure in them. Thanks for getting well thoughtful and then for settling on variety of ideal information millions of individuals are really desirous to know about. My honest regret for not expressing appreciation to you earlier.

  15. jordan travis scott Avatar

    I needed to draft you the bit of remark to be able to thank you so much over again just for the precious solutions you have featured on this site. It has been quite pretty generous of people like you in giving openly what many of us could have advertised as an e book to earn some bucks on their own, particularly considering the fact that you could possibly have done it in case you considered necessary. Those tactics as well acted like a great way to be certain that someone else have similar dream much like my own to grasp way more with regard to this issue. I’m certain there are some more fun instances in the future for many who see your blog.

  16. michael jordan shoes Avatar

    My spouse and i were joyous that Albert managed to deal with his basic research by way of the precious recommendations he got through your web page. It’s not at all simplistic to simply happen to be giving out steps which usually a number of people have been trying to sell. Therefore we remember we need you to give thanks to for that. All the explanations you’ve made, the easy site menu, the relationships you can assist to foster – it’s got many astonishing, and it’s really facilitating our son in addition to the family feel that that situation is interesting, which is certainly highly indispensable. Thanks for all the pieces!

  17. golden goose sabot Avatar

    An fascinating discussion is worth comment. I think that you should write extra on this subject, it may not be a taboo topic however typically individuals are not enough to talk on such topics. To the next. Cheers

  18. golden goose sliders Avatar

    you have a terrific weblog right here! would you like to make some invite posts on my blog?

  19. golden goose shoes sale Avatar

    You made some respectable points there. I seemed on the internet for the difficulty and found most people will go along with along with your website.

  20. 신용카드현금화 Avatar

    My programmer is trying to convince me to move to .net from PHP.
    I have always disliked the idea because of the expenses.
    But he’s tryiong none the less. I’ve been using Movable-type on a number of
    websites for about a year and am nervous about switching to another platform.

    I have heard very good things about blogengine.net. Is
    there a way I can transfer all my wordpress posts into it?
    Any help would be greatly appreciated!

    Here is my blog – 신용카드현금화

  21. 온라인슬롯 Avatar

    Now I am going to do my breakfast, when having my breakfast coming again to read further news.

    My homepage :: 온라인슬롯

  22. 카지노사이트 Avatar

    I’m truly enjoying the design and layout of your site.
    It’s a very easy on the eyes which makes it much more enjoyable for me to come here and visit more
    often. Did you hire out a designer to create your
    theme? Superb work!

    My homepage :: 카지노사이트

  23. 먹튀검증 Avatar

    Awesome blog! Is your theme custom made or did you download
    it from somewhere? A theme like yours with a few simple adjustements would really make my blog shine.
    Please let me know where you got your theme. Thank

    Also visit my blog post; 먹튀검증

  24. 먹튀검증 Avatar

    Please let me know if you’re looking for a article writer for your site.
    You have some really great posts and I think I would be
    a good asset. If you ever want to take some of the load off,
    I’d absolutely love to write some material for your
    blog in exchange for a link back to mine. Please blast me an e-mail if
    interested. Thank you!

    Feel free to visit my homepage: 먹튀검증

  25. ggdb shoes Avatar

    Spot on with this write-up, I actually assume this website wants much more consideration. I抣l in all probability be again to learn much more, thanks for that info.

  26. supreme outlet Avatar

    Once I initially commented I clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now every time a remark is added I get 4 emails with the identical comment. Is there any way you’ll be able to take away me from that service? Thanks!

  27. jordan outlet Avatar

    I found your weblog site on google and test a couple of of your early posts. Continue to maintain up the very good operate. I just extra up your RSS feed to my MSN News Reader. Looking for forward to reading extra from you afterward!?

  28. kd shoes Avatar

    Youre so cool! I dont suppose Ive read anything like this before. So nice to find any individual with some original thoughts on this subject. realy thank you for starting this up. this website is one thing that is needed on the net, someone with somewhat originality. useful job for bringing one thing new to the web!

  29. off white outlet Avatar

    Aw, this was a really nice post. In thought I would like to put in writing like this moreover ?taking time and actual effort to make a very good article?but what can I say?I procrastinate alot and by no means seem to get something done.

  30. golden goose sneakers sale Avatar

    I as well as my friends have already been looking at the great points on the blog while suddenly came up with an awful feeling I had not expressed respect to the blog owner for those strategies. Those boys became as a consequence glad to learn all of them and now have simply been making the most of them. I appreciate you for turning out to be well considerate and for considering such extraordinary resources most people are really needing to understand about. Our own honest regret for not expressing appreciation to you earlier.

  31. Neculiti Ivan Avatar
    Neculiti Ivan

    Yes, all can be

    _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
    Nekultsy Ivan github ansible

  32. Rajabets App Avatar

    I suggest you to come on a site where there is a lot of information on a theme interesting you.

  33. JefferyAmump Avatar

    Here and so too happens:)


  34. avenue17 Avatar

    In my opinion you commit an error. I suggest it to discuss. Write to me in PM, we will talk.

  35. Johnnyhoome Avatar

    Rather useful message


  36. DannyFrelo Avatar

    Поздравляю, эта весьма хорошая мысль придется как раз кстати

    Пчеловод (фильм 2024) смотреть онлайн в HD 720 – 1080 хорошем качестве бесплатно

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *